Did you know that children between the ages of 7 and 9 often experience separation anxiety? I didn't! I did know that my oldest little one has been having a very hard time leaving me each morning. Bus time has been hard. It's hard for him to go. It's hard for me to see his sad face in the bus window. I've been told by very reliable sources that he is a happy, smiley boy at school. His grades and behavior are great too. It's just hard to say goodbye and sometimes during the day, he wishes that he were back at home. I was reading a Parenting magazine last night before bed. It mentioned that this is actually common for children ages 7-9. Well, my 8 year old is smack in the middle of that age group. It was relief to know that this was a normal phase. The magazine gave some suggestions about how to help your child separate. The suggestion that my husband and I liked the most was giving your child a small object to take with them that would remind them of you. My son loves cats. He also loves the feel of silky materials and loops of ribbon on things. Green is his favorite color. This afternoon I made him what I am calling a worry cat. The idea is that he can keep it in his pocket (it's nice and small, only about 2 1/2" square) and reach for it when he needs it. There is a loop to fiddle with and the back is silky. And best of all, it is washable! My husband is already laughing about what it will look like by the end of the week. I'm looking forward to the afternoon bus to present it to him!
Edited to add: The worry cat received a huge smile when I gave it to my son after school yesterday. Today at bus time, he smiled at me and touched his pocket and hopped right on the bus! Amazing!
This is so, so cute! Thanks for sharing your story. :)
ReplyDeleteThe cat looks fantastic (although it's sad).
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea! I'm sure your son will love his little Worry Cat!
ReplyDeleteLOVE this!!!
ReplyDeleteI know I had that kind of anxiety, lol.
ReplyDeleteI remember my cousin giving her son something of hers to take and it worked for her. He then thought SHE might miss HIM too much during the day, so he gave her something of his to remind her of him. Also--the book "The Kissing Hand." My mom used to give us a kissing hand before school and it helped me out in those crazy days of first grade :)
That is so cute and sweet. What a brilliant idea to help lessen the anxiety. I hope your son loves him and is a little happier going off to school with his new buddy to fiddle with :-)
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful idea Amy. I hope it helps take away some of the anxiety he's feeling - you are such a great mom.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful idea! He's going to love it. My little boy would love it, too! I may have to borrow this idea at some point. :)
ReplyDeletewhat a great idea Amy! I'm so sorry T has had a hard time lately being away from you. He'll love the worry cat.
ReplyDeleteI love this idea! This might help resolve the "stomach aches" my daughter has everyday at school lately! You'll have to take another pic of it once it's broken-in by your son ;-)
ReplyDeleteGreat idea. Our son would have stomache aches...we gave him a photo of us to put in his pocket and a worry rock...worked great.
ReplyDeleteI think Worry Cat is adorable but one side of his mouth needs to be the start of a smile!:)
That is a great idea. In fact, I could have used one of those today myself...
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea, Amy! That cat is so cute. I know we'll be hearing how fab this cat really is soon. :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a great mommy! Did he love it?
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet idea and adorable little piece for him to carry! So thoughtful. I hope it brings him a little comfort.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea! I bet he loves it!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea! My son is 5 and started prep this year, it has been really hard. I might have to use this idea.
ReplyDeleteYou are a smart and wonderful mom!! And that is adorable!
ReplyDeleteHe sounds like a very special boy. Glad you've taken a photo of the worry cat, and recorded this story about him - so you'll remember about it even with the whirlwind of years to come!!
ReplyDeleteGreat move. I suffered terribly from separation anxiety as a kid and my mom did something similar. It was wonderful to have a piece of her with me all day. I'm sure your big little guy will love it, too.
ReplyDeleteOh how sweet! Parenting sure takes a lot of creativity, huh? :-)
ReplyDeleteSo sweet. I am so glad it helps! Good job!
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